Weddings and things

"I mean, it's all any of us wants - to find a nice person to hang out with 'til we drop dead. Not a lot to ask."


I went to a wedding the last week of July and one the first week of August. I have 2 more this year: September and October.

All of these weddings prompted me to think about finding the person of your dreams. Especially finding that person at such a young age. Many people seem to have it "set" already. They already found that person, even in their early 20s. I thought I did, but now looking back, I'm glad I hadn't. It never would have worked...

Strangely enough, my roommate brought up this exact topic, because a friend of ours asked her if her and her boyfriend were engaged yet. She was incredulous. She couldn't believe anyone even thought of them as being a couple who WOULD get engaged.

I didn't tell her this, but I wanted to: they really do!! Maybe not right now. So much could change for them... and so much would HAVE to change in order for that to work. Some growing up might help.


Back to her point of view: We're already 23...If we haven't found him yet, that means we need to meet him, get to know him, date him for a while and then we can consider the marriage thing... which means it's more WAITING. She's already with a guy, one she isn't going to leave any time soon. Which means if he isn't the guy, she needs to wait until that's over first.

I am not with anyone. I don't know how much longer I have to wait until I find that someone, but after the nasty break up I went through I finally feel like I'm ready. But honestly, I also feel like I'm ready to just.. be in a nice happy committed relationship again, that will last.

But if it doesn't happen soon... I'm just going to be waiting!! My roommate is at least fairly set because she is with a guy who COULD be THE guy. I am with no one. I still have to do the meeting, getting to know, etc. Ug, I hate that. So much pressure in dating.

We're both so sick of dating. So sick of everything just ending. Not working out. Being over. I'm so sick of relationships where things like "Is he trustworthy?" really come into question. I would just like it work. Find him, have it work. I'm not a taxing girlfriend... I'm pretty sweet actually. I don't nag, I'm not possessive or jealous, I don't take him away from his friends, I encourage him to hang out with them, etc. So being in a committed relationship with me isn't so bad! To be honest, it'd be hard to commit right away though, after everything I went through. Can we just start nice and casual and just have it... happen!?

I will say this here, but not to her: I really hope my roommate and her boyfriend do last. I love them as a couple. They're perfect.

Another couple that we're friends with (well they're broken up now) have been going through some rough shit, and I thought they'd last at least for a while longer. But he keeps changing his mind on her and doesn't know if he loves her anymore or not.

Guys: lesson one: MAN UP. Whether its confessing something, just saying no to other chicks (or not chasing tail in general), committing to be with the woman you love, or backing out and NOT stringing things along when something isn't working!! Seriously, men are supposed to be so manly and tough... if that's what you call manly, then I'm way tougher then you and I'm annoyed by it. So many men do not act their age at all when it comes to relationships.

So that's another thing: finding a guy who knows how to man up when necessary would be really decent. I don't necessarily mean some badass tough guy... honestly, they're not so good at relationships.

"But maybe he didn't mean it as a date thing. Maybe he just needed to get out of the house, and since I'm currently one of the women sitting home, thinking, 'If I could only find a man like Aragorn,' he picked me."